Vibrators come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes and intensities. They might feel buzzy or rumbly, deeply thrumming or intensely focused on the clitoris and G-spot.
As with many things in life, finding what feels good is a matter of experimentation. That’s why it’s important to try your vibrator out before bringing it into sex with a partner.
Buzzy
Trying out a new vibrator can be intimidating, especially if it’s your first time. Luckily, it’s also a very pleasurable experience. It’s important to take your time and get to know a vibe before jumping into play with it, and that means getting ready in the right mood (wine, candles, erotica, whatever gets you going) before reaching for that on switch.
Vibrators can make a lot of different kinds of sensations, depending on their size and design, and of course, everyone’s body is different. If you’re looking for something that feels buzzy and orgasmic, try a vibrator with a smaller head that targets a specific area and offers intense vibrations. This can be great for penetrative stimulation on the clitoris or G-spot, or if you want to double up and use it with a partner, you could build up speeds and vibration patterns to lead to explosive orgasms.
Some vibrators are designed with dual stimulation, delivering the pleasures of a deep throbbing against the G-spot and a clit sucking action on the clitoris or penis — these toys often include rabbits, octopus vibes like the Hot Octopuses Kurve, and even a G-spot vibrator that works on both the clit and clitoris for an extra-pleasurable sensation. These can also work well in conjunction with a partner to increase sexual pleasure and orgasms.
Rumbly
Often found in larger sex toys that are used for internal stimulation, rumbly vibes have motors with a heavier weight. This makes them vibrate at a lower frequency and can feel deeper when applied to the clitoris and other sensitive areas. The rumbling sensations can also massage nerve endings and muscles, and can lead to more complex orgasms.
Like buzzy vibes, rumbly vibrators come in a variety of intensities and offer preset vibration patterns. They can have rapid pulses or a deeper thrumming effect that is great for the G-spot, and a lot of people love the feeling of being hit with a wave of sensation.
If you’re trying a rumbly vibe for the first time, Fleming suggests starting by stimulating yourself with your hands to get an idea of what feels good. It can also be helpful to look at yourself in a mirror and work out what your pleasure points are, like the clitoris or the vaginal opening.
She says you can then use the vibe to tease those areas or just run it delicately around your nipples and pelvic area. And remember to always use lube with a vibrator, particularly if you’re using it for internal stimulation. It’s also a good idea to have a water-based lube on hand and a condom handy. This will help prevent irritation and reduce the risk of infection.
Intense
The housing of a vibrator (typically metal or plastic) isn’t usually the part that feels intense when you use it, but the outer skin does. A sex toy’s outer skin is usually made out of a softer material like rubber or silicone that feels more comfortable, and it can be designed with different textures and shapes to target specific areas of the body.
Many vibes also have a setting called “deeply thrumming,” which creates vibrations that go under the surface of the skin rather than against it, and can be great for the G-spot. And then there are vibrators that have pulsing patterns, which can feel like a buzzy massage all over.
Regardless of what kind of vibrations or settings you prefer, it’s best to try your new sex toy in a non-sexual way before using it with a partner. This way, you can get a feel for how it works and how it makes your body react without having to fiddle with it while you have a person waiting.
And, since it can be easy to become desensitized to the sensation of clitoral stimulation after using a vibrator for a long period of time, it’s important to stimulate yourself in other ways with your partner to keep things fresh. Try stimulating your clitoris with your fingers, for example, or reading erotica together. And always remember to use lube—preferably water-based, as oil-based lubes can erode latex toys.
Comfortable
Vibrators come in a wide range of intensities, shapes and prices. But they all abide by the Goldilocks principle: Some are too big, some are too small and some are just right. When choosing a vibrator, you should start with one that fits comfortably in your hand. And always use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and prevent irritation.
Using a vibrator is a great way to discover new sensations and explore your erogenous zones. It can also be used with a partner for deeper penetration and orgasms. However, it’s important to remember that a vibrator can’t replace your partner. It can be used to enhance your experience and make intimate activities more exciting but should never replace physical touch.
Some people are turned off by the idea of trying a vibrator because they’re worried they won’t like it or that they will feel uncomfortable. But, the truth is that everyone has different pleasure needs. It’s all about finding the best sex toy for you and figuring out what sensations bring you the most pleasure.
Vibrators can help you get orgasms by heightening arousal, inspiring masturbation alone, making penetrative sex more intense, and even boosting orgasms during sex with a partner. Whether you’re a beginner or an experienced user, it’s always important to listen to your body and know when to stop.
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