A vibrator can heighten arousal, open up new explorations with your partner, and increase the likelihood of reaching orgasm. However, it can also be difficult to figure out how to use a vibrator during sex.
To help ease the process, experts suggest trying these six tricks for using a vibrator during sex. And don’t forget to use lube (water-based, of course)!
1. Use it on the clitoris
Using a vibrator during sex can be super hot, but it’s also crucial to keep in mind that the device is only as effective as the pressure you apply. If you’re new to using vibrators, it’s important to ease into it, and start off with light intensity settings.
For beginners, Schreck recommends gently running the vibrator along the head of the penis. “It’s really sensual and intense,” she says.
If you want to take it further, try doing doggy style with your partner. “It’s super hot, and it’ll give you G-Spot and clit stimulation at once,” she says. It’s also a great way to increase intimacy and make sex more fun.
2. Place it on the vulva
Whether your vibrator is shaped like a penis or not, stimulating the vulva and clitoral area will feel incredible. You can tease and massage the vulva, or use it to stimulate the g-spot (the area between your thighs)—both will be extremely satisfying.
Vibrators aren’t just for penetrative sex; they can also enhance sensations during oral and hand jobs. Just remember to use the right amount of pressure and speed and be sure that your partner is comfortable with it. Otherwise, this can quickly turn into a painful experience. Be patient and let them explore the different settings. They may even surprise you with how much they enjoy it!
3. Place it on the g-spot
There’s no right or wrong way to use a vibrator during sex, but being open and communicating with your partner can help you find the best way to enjoy your toy. If your partner has an aversion to touching the G-spot, they may not realize it’s because of a fear of pain or unconscious stigma, which can be overcome with communication and a bit of trial and error.
Fleming suggests using a lubricant to increase the pleasure of stimulating the G-spot with a vibrator, as well as other erogenous zones. She also recommends trying out doggy-style, where your partner kneels in front of you and holds the vibrator between their legs for full body contact.
4. Place it on the inner wrists
If you and your partner like to explore erogenous zones other than the genitals, you can use your vibrator in a variety of ways to add intense sensations to oral sex. Try placing it on the inner wrists, which can feel very arousing.
It’s important to remember that not all people are comfortable using a vibrator during sex, so it’s important to respect their boundaries and never force them into something they don’t want to do. If your partner isn’t into it, consider using it as a play toy for foreplay instead of during sex.
Always use a water-based lube with your vibrator and don’t forget a condom!
5. Place it on the nipples
If you’re using a vibrator with your partner, be sure to grab some lube. It reduces friction between the skin and the toy, and it can also be an extra sensual boost for the both of you.
Once you’re warmed up with foreplay, you can move the toy to more erogenous areas, like the nipples or the balls. Using a vibrator on these areas can trigger sexual tension and orgasms.
Just remember to always clean your vibrator after each use to keep it free of bacteria. Also, it’s a good idea to pair it with a condom (or another type of barrier) during sex, as this helps protect against STIs.
6. Place it on the inner thighs
Using a vibrator on the inner thighs can create incredible pleasure. Simply stroking the area with the toy and increasing the pressure can give a boost of sensations that feels amazing.
This is also an ideal spot to use a dildo viber, as it gives you both the vaginal and clitoral stimulation you need for orgasm. It’s important to apply gentle pressure and move the toy slowly around the area, as too much pressure could break the toy.
It’s a fun idea to try out a vibrator while spooning, which can be even hotter when you both control the toy. Just remember to keep the intensity low, unless you’re on a higher vibration setting, as this can be uncomfortable for both partners.
7. Place it on the neck
Once you’ve both warmed up with foreplay, turn on the vibrator and gently move it over bare skin, like the nipples, balls, or inner thighs. Remember that all erogenous zones are fair game, including the neck.
You can also use the vibrator during oral sex. Try holding it against your cheek or positioning it over the clit during doggy style, for example. Just be sure to check in with your partner along the way and communicate what feels good to them. And don’t forget to wipe down the vibrator and disinfect it after each use. This prevents bacteria and viruses from spreading between partners. And, of course, a condom is always recommended.
8. Place it on the back
If your partner has an aversion to using vibrators during sex, it may signal other issues in the relationship. It could be that they feel you aren’t good enough, have a subconscious stigma about using toys, or that they prioritize their own pleasure over yours.
As you experiment with sex toys, apply lube to both the toy and the area being stimulated to reduce friction and increase comfort. It’s also important to communicate throughout the session to find out what feels best. Try alternating between clitoral stimulation and the head of the penis or doing a doggie-style position with the hand controls. Try a variety of vibration modes and speeds to see what feels most intense.
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