As women age, they often lose their lubrication and struggle to reach climax. Vibrators help by stimulating the clitoral hood and causing orgasms.
A prop master for the show Grace and Frankie, Emily Ferry scoured the internet and brick-and-mortar stores to find vibrators that appeal to seniors. Here are some she recommends:.
Clitoral Stimulators
Known as clit stimulators or clit suckers, these toys are specifically designed to stimulate the clitoris. Your clit is home to 8,000 nerve endings, double the number found on your penis, which may explain why penetration alone doesn’t result in orgasm for most people with vaginas.
In addition to helping you reach new pleasure highs, clitoral stimulation can help improve intimacy and self-awareness. It also increases blood flow to the vulva and vagina, promoting sensitivity, making you more aware of sensations in your vulva. “Using pleasure toys, especially with a partner, helps you learn what triggers orgasm in both of you,” says Lovehoney’s resident sex and relationship expert, Annabelle Knight.
The best clitoral vibrators tend to be small and discreet with our top pick, the Dame Eva II, featuring tiny “wings” that nestle under the labia for targeted hands-free orgasm. The Dame is also easy to use with a variety of speeds and intensity settings and can be used by itself or with penetration.
It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to have sex, and if penetration isn’t working for you, that’s completely okay. We recommend consulting your doctor or sex therapist for advice on pain during sex and finding ways to enjoy sexual intimacy with other methods like oral sex, massage, clitoral stimulation and sex toys.
Poco
Poco offers a variety of different types of vibrators that are great for anyone looking to get more stimulation out of their life. These toys are made with high-quality materials and come with a lifetime warranty. They are also very easy to use and can be used at home or while you’re on the go.
The Bluesign stamp of approval is another great feature of this product. It means that the fabric is made from approved chemical products and raw materials that are designed to reduce the impact on the environment.
Momma Critter loved using the Poco Plus on walks to the coffee shop and even on errands around town! Daddy Critter liked it for doing fall leaf clean-up, trimming and sweeping the garage.
Silicone Toys
It’s not every day you see a vibrator in the hands of someone over 60—but thanks to the hit Netflix series Grace and Frankie, this is starting to change. The show’s creator, Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin, has spoken out about their own struggles with partnered sex and sexual pleasure at age 70+, and has since written two books on the topic and spoken at sex-positive feminist stores like Pleasure Chest and Tool Shed. She also travels to teach people of all ages about how to use a vibrator, and has started a line of toys designed with senior women in mind (and called it ‘Yuki’).
These toys have a longer body that can be easier for arthritic fingers to manoeuvre, plus a discreet tip to get into tight spots. They’re also rechargeable for maximum portability and discreet enough to be used alone.
Another perk of using a vibrator during menopause is that it stimulates the pelvic nerves to increase lubrication, which can be difficult for older women who may struggle with vaginal dryness due to declining levels of estrogen. But with a little help from a quality lubricant, you can get back to orgasming as normal! We recommend using a water-based lubricant like the natural lube from Wicked Sensual Care. Its aloe-based formula simulates your body’s natural lubrication, and is formulated without glycerin, propylene glycol, parabens, or fragrance.
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