Whether you’re new to masturbation or just want to expand your pleasure options, a small vibrator can be a fun addition. In this safe space, experts Dr Jennifer Lincoln and Jenn Chang (head of product design at sex toy brand Cake) break down all the basics and best practices for using a bullet vibrator.
1. Hold it horizontally
As much as we’d love sex toys to be cleanable and safe enough to share, the reality is that they collect bodily fluids. That’s why using a condom with your vibrator is a good idea, especially if you plan on sharing it. That way, you can still have a fun night without worrying about cleaning it or getting someone else’s germs on your beloved toy.
A bullet vibe’s curved end can be used to stimulate the G-spot, but only when you’re turned on and have some lube to work with. The key is to start small and work your way up in terms of pressure, and be sure to use short thrusts and toy movements that are smooth and consistent.
Once you’re comfortable with your new toy, try experimenting with other ways it can be used to stimulate the body. Pressing a bullet against your inner thighs, behind the knees, or nipples can unlock new erogenous zones and uncover hidden pleasure spots you may not have thought of before.
Similarly, try changing up the settings on your vibrator to see how it affects your favorite spots. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut with the same settings and forget that your vibrator has lots of options available. You can also add a safe stimulating lube like Southern Butter Enhance Balm to boost sensitivity and heighten orgasms when playing with your bullet.
2. Press it against your clitoris or vaginal hood
The clitoral glans is rich in nerve endings and many women orgasm from direct stimulation. However, the hood that covers it also feels good to stimulate—as does the ridge of tissue that curves back toward the pelvis and is sometimes called the G-spot. To stimulate the clitoral glans, or hood and ridge, gently press the tip of the vibrator against them. Move it up and down, side to side or in a circular motion. Listen in to your body and your partner’s feedback—do they want more pressure, more or less, more or less movement?
There have been a lot of toys created specifically to engage the clitoris or clitoral hood, including clit suckers that can provide unique pleasure that your hands alone might not be able to offer. Using them with a little lube can make the experience even more satisfying for your partners and yourself, but be sure to use a lubricant that is both safe and skin friendly.
Bullet vibes are a great option for anyone starting out with vibrators because they’re small and discreet. They can be used for clitoral stimulation by simply pressing the tip against your clitoral hood, but they can also be controlled and applied to other areas of the vulva, like the breasts, inner thighs or feet, Deysach says. Many people enjoy masturbating with a bullet in bed or on the couch, and partners can get a lot of satisfaction from teasing and stroking.
3. Press it against your nipples
If you have a small vibrator like a bullet and want to take your nipple play to the next level, use it to tease or massage your breasts with gentle vibration settings. You can also use it to create a sensation of sucking against the nipples, which feels amazing and makes a great addition to any breast-based play.
Another thing to try is using your small vibe to explore your partner’s pleasure zones. You could graze it along their neck, belly, or inner thighs. It’s a safe and fun way to build chemistry, communicate, and see what turns them on.
You can also use a small vibrator to play with your partner in doggy style or during anal play. Just remember to keep the rumbles away from their clitoris or the area around their penis known as their G-spot. You can also use it to gently massage their perineum or the area between their balls and anus.
If you’ve never introduced a vibrator into partnered play before, be brave and ask your partner if they want to try it. A bullet vibe is a good toy for this because it’s small enough to be easy for partners of any size to handle. It’s also not as visually overwhelming. And remember to always clean your vibrator with a high-quality toy cleaner before and after you use it.
4. Press it against your penis
If you’re looking for more intense stimulation, press a small vibe against your penis. The frenulum is a very sensitive erogenous zone (the spot of skin between the shaft and head), packed with nerves, so it’s a great place to start. You can also stroke it with your hand, tracing circles or going up-and-down—or try some more unique strokes like grasping the base and stroking the head with your fingertips; grabbing the head and applying pressure to it as you move down the shaft; and even twisting and pulling it, as though your hand is a corkscrew.
Aside from the clitoral area, small vibes are good for stimulating sensitive areas like your inner thighs or the back of your knees. They’re also perfect for gliding over curves and exploring your body’s dips and valleys—just remember to use plenty of lube, especially if you’re doing this on yourself.
As with any sex toy, it’s important to take your time and ease into things. Especially if you’re using a new vibrator, take it slow and start on a lower setting. And always make sure the toy is fully charged before you begin—nobody wants a buzzkill in the middle of a steamy solo session. Also, be sure to read any special instructions or tips that come with your new toy, like cleaning suggestions or a list of buttons and what each one does.
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