Vibrators aren’t just for vulvas—they’re sexy for the penis, too. But before you use a vibrator on your penis, make sure you apply plenty of lube.
Start with gentle pressure and move around to find out what areas feel good. Remember, communication is key to ensuring that it’s safe and pleasurable.
1. Focus on the Frenulum
Many people think vibrators are mainly for the vulva, but men (and women with penises) also get orgasms from vibration in the other erogenous zones. One of those zones is the frenulum, the narrow elastic bit that runs from the head to the shaft of the penis. It’s super sensitive, and it can respond to lubrication, pressure, temperature, and vibration.
Start with the lowest settings on the vibrator, and have your partner use it against the base of the penis, in a circular motion. The base of the penis, or corpus cavernosum, is made of spongy tissue and can feel really great against a vibrator with a gentle amount of pressure. Then, turn up the intensity and apply a little more pressure — but still not too much!
During insertion, he may notice a little bleeding — this is completely normal. The blood vessels in this area are very close to the skin, and sometimes can tear a little with penetration. This is nothing to worry about, and it usually heals up in a day or two.
Don’t forget to clean the vibrator between uses, and make sure you’re using a condom or other barrier method if you’re sharing it with your boo. STIs can be transmitted through unclean sex toys, so you want to avoid sharing a toy that might have bacteria on it.
2. Focus on the Testicles
Most people assume that vibrators are primarily a sex toy for vulvas, but they can also be used on penises. Men and women who have a penis can enjoy the sensations of vibration just as much as those with a vagina, and there are lots of ways to experiment. For example, a vibrator can be used along the shaft and head of the penis or close to the anus. You can also use a vibrator to explore the anal canal, which has many sensitive nerve endings and can be orgasmic for some people.
Another great way to use a vibrator on the penis is during oral sex. Pressing the end of the vibrator against the bottom of the chin can make the mouth and tongue vibrate, which can be very pleasurable. You can also try rubbing the head of the vibrator against the lips or cheek to feel the vibrations through the skin.
Just remember to apply lubricant before using any sex toy on the penis. Friction can lead to irritation and discomfort, so a little lube can go a long way. In addition, it’s important to practice proper hygiene, and always use a condom when using any type of sex toy with a partner (even if you’re both vibrating on the same person). STIs can be transmitted through vibrators, so always clean the vibrator between uses or put a condom over the top of the area where the toy makes contact with your body.
3. Focus on the Clitoris
The clitoral hood is a sensitive area, and can feel very different from person to person. It has nerve endings and a body that curves back behind it, before becoming buried inside the pelvis. Vibrators can be used to titillate and tease this area, before moving on to more intense stimulation, such as stroking and vibration. It’s best to start with a smaller vibrator and gradually work up to something bigger. Men’s masturbators and finger vibrators are great for this, and can also be used to tickle the testicles if desired.
Stimulating the clitoral hood can be a fun way to play with your partner, and it can lead to orgasm in some people. Some people like to lick their clitoral hood, and it’s also possible to use a vibrator for this purpose. However, it’s important to communicate with your partner and listen to what feels good for them. It might take some time to figure out how to stimulate the clitoral hood and other erogenous zones.
The key to a safe and satisfying experience with a penis vibrator is lubrication. A high-quality water-based lube will help to reduce friction, and make penetration more comfortable. It’s also important to remember that not everyone will enjoy penis play, and that it’s okay if this isn’t something they want to explore.
4. Focus on the Vaginal Opening
Many men have been conditioned to think that vibrators are only for the vulva, but this isn’t true. Vibrations feel great on the penis, too, and they can help boost climax in both partners, which is especially beneficial for men with erectile dysfunction. Men can also use penis vibrators for masturbation, or for incorporating into sex with their partner in a variety of ways.
If you’re trying to get your partner interested in using a penis vibrator, be sure to ask them if they are open to it and to present the idea in a nonjudgmental way. Some people may find the buzzing sensations uncomfortable, while others will love it. Be sure to talk about consent, as well, and make it clear that if they don’t like it, they can always stop.
If your partner is new to the idea of a penis vibrator, it might be helpful to start with something simple, like a vibrating ring (Trojan and Durex both make them). These little beauties slide right onto the shaft and can feel heavenly on their own or even better when used in conjunction with other toys, such as the anal tunnel. It’s also important to go slow during insertion. It’s easy for anal muscles to clench, and overdoing it can cause pain. Make sure to use water-based lube to reduce friction and maximize pleasure.
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