Using a vibrator to make yourself cum can be fun and pleasurable. Just remember to clean your toy regularly and never use it in a public place.
Also, don’t get discouraged if you don’t orgasm the first time you try it. It may take some time before you figure out what turns you on.
Start with your clitoris
A vibrator can stimulate lots of body parts, but some of the best places to start are the outer labia and clitoris. Use a lot of lube (to avoid irritation), and gently trail your vibrator over the clitoral hood until it feels so good that you want to push deeper.
The clitoral hood is made of erectile tissue that can be highly sensitive when engorged with blood and pulsing. It’s a great place to get arousal and even orgasms for some people.
If you don’t have a clitoral hood toy, you can also try rubbing your clitoris or stimulating it with your fingers. For instance, you can make circles with your fingers in a peace sign shape (a little lube helps) or tap the area for sudden sparks of pleasure.
It’s important to note that it takes time to discover what turns you on with a clitoral toy and with any sex toy. And, it’s not unusual to experience a lack of orgasm during your first few uses of the vibrator.
Another fun way to play with your clitoral toy is to ask your partner to do it for you. Some positions like Missionary and the Coital Alignment Technique make this easy while others such as Doggy Style or Spooning are more challenging. If you can’t get your hands on him, you can also use the vibrator over his balls and perineum (the rough area of skin between his testicles and anus). You may even try a penetrating in and out movement that stimulates both internal and external sensations.
Move to your scrotum
Many men are afraid to try a vibrator because they think it’s only for women, or they don’t want to be “that kind of guy.” But the truth is that everyone can enjoy pleasure and orgasms from using a vibrator. It just takes a little bit of practice.
Ideally, you’ll want to play with your vibrator on all the parts of your body that are furthest from your genitals first, says Stewart. Try running it over your feet and hands, up and down your arms and legs, across your belly and down your neck. Then, slowly move it up your torso to your shoulders and back. Finally, try it on your scalp and face to see how you feel about the vibration.
If you’re feeling more confident, try moving the vibe to your clitoris and anus. Always make sure you have plenty of water-based lubricant on hand before trying a new sex toy, especially if it goes inside your rectum. And never share a vibrator, or any other sex toy for that matter, with someone else unless you’re both wearing condoms and using a safe technique.
A vibrator can be a fantastic addition to your masturbation routine, or even to your sexual exploration with your partner. But just be patient and take your time with it – after all, what’s the rush?
Move to your penis
If you’re using a bullet vibrator (or other clitoral-only toys, like wands or rings), press it against your clit and make any motions that feel good. Some people like to run it along the length of their clitoral hood or tap it against the glans at the tip of their clitoris, while others find a rhythmic circular motion with the toy feels great.
When you’re comfortable with this, it’s time to add your penis. Many men are surprised to discover the pleasure of pegging with a vibrator. It’s a great way to introduce anal play and add extra dimension foreplay, but you can also try stroking the area with your fingers. You can even use a penis sleeve (or stroker) to give yourself or your partner some extra sensation, particularly on top of a lubricated anal.
If you want to try pegging with a partner, start with the same positions you’d use for sex, such as lying doggy or kneeling on the bed with your hand reaching out. You can also try more sensual positions, like spooning, to see what kind of pleasure you’re both feeling. The most important thing is to take it slow and don’t rush. What feels right one day may not the next, so be sure to keep it safe and fun, and always apply lube, especially if you’re new to this.
Move to your ass
A toy inserted up your anus — preferably a butt plug, prostate massager or anal beads with a flared base designed for bum fun — is sure to stimulate the area you never knew you wanted to explore. Before you get going, make sure the toy is lubed and warmed up with foreplay. Start by inserting the toy just past resistance, focusing on those sphincters, and easing it in. Once you feel your sphincters unclench, start adding more lube until it feels like the toy is inserted all the way.
Using a vibrator up your anus can be a bit awkward and uncomfortable, but it’s worth the discomfort for the mind-blowing orgasms it will bring. If you want to take it even farther, try double penetration with a partner. This is a pleasure-packed technique that involves the female partner using a strap-on vibrator to penetrate her vagina while the male partner uses his anal tube to stimulate her infamous P-spot.
Remember to use a lot of toy-safe lube before and after every time you use your vibrator. This will reduce the risk of injury and increase the sensations you’ll experience. And if you don’t get an orgasm your first time trying, don’t give up! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and it might take a few attempts before you find the toy that triggers your anal.
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